Charlotte Balbier

the big debate: should you get your groom involved in the wedding planning?

April 10th, 2015 | Julia Braime

Found on blog.myweddingreceptionideas.com, photography by Jennifer Rotz Photography

image source, photography by Jennifer Rotz Photography

pesky boys.

Should you let them anywhere near the wedding planning? Today on the blog, that’s what we’re talking about.

We’d love to hear your side of the argument.

Found on bows-n-ties.tumblr.com

image source

rachel says: get him involved

As more couples ditch traditional weddings in favour of personal affairs, I think it’s hugely important that input comes from both sides to ensure the big day is a reflection of both the bride and groom. It’s all about striking a balance.

Most females (myself included) have dreamt about their wedding day from being a little girl and while we want the groom to get involved and show an interest/support we also don’t want them taking over the show.

That can be the trouble, nag a guy to do something and he goes from ‘whatever’ to ‘I can do it better’. In the first instance I think it’s best to sit down and discuss the main factors – location, budget and numbers – together. Then when it gets to the more creative side of things – colour theme, styling, décor, food and entertainment – write down your ideas separately (so he has to put some thought into it) and then come back together to discuss what you’ve come up with. A little bit of compromise might well be required at this point.

Don’t sweat it if he doesn’t want to be involved in all elements, such as bouquets, button holes and sashes, but I say definitely try to get him fired up and to take the reins when it comes to areas he’s passionate about, such as food, entertainment, transport and the honeymoon.

Just remember the main reason you’re getting married – love – and try to make it fun, attending events such as wedding fairs and tastings together. I’ve read numerous real weddings where the bride and groom have created some great memories during days out planning their big day and the joint-efforts really shine through.

Found on m.bridalguide.com

image source

julia says: keep him out of it

Why is this even up for debate? Girls, haven’t you seen Don’t Tell The Bride?!

Sure, they all laugh and say how well the hapless husband has done at the end of every episode, but by that point they’re blinded by relief (that their wedding wasn’t the skydive episode), impending Sky Living stardom or alcohol (well, wouldn’t you get smashed in that scenario?!). Ladies, do not be fooled by “happily ever after” episode formatting: take control.

Other than making sure your wedding day is one to remember for the right reasons, I think that this is only fair. Has your other half dreamed of his big day since he was a little boy? Did he dash straight out to the newsagents and clear the bridal title shelf right after you made it official? Does he even know that wedding blogs exist? Girls, this is your time in the sun. If I were you I’d grab that wedding folder, and enjoy every blissful minute of independent planning. Hey, he got to plan the proposal (didn’t he…?)!

Yes, this is his wedding day too. Of course it is. And I know I’m generalising (and yes, being pretty sexist, but hey, it’s for the good of the piece), but what does he know about pastel Pinterest boards, bridesmaids’ frocks and sugar craft?

If you must, get him involved in some of the less pretty bits, like shopping for formal wear, making a wedding playlist or even let him loose on “the honeymoon project”. Be warned though, men can get some funny ideas when left to their own devices.

Make it extremely clear just how far any decision making autonomy can go, or you’ll end up with a rugby anthem for every hymn, some dubious waistcoat options and bottled beer for reception drinks.

I know. I’ve lived it.

My advice to you? Schedule a few Don’t Tell The Bride viewing sessions with your groom to be, watch him take in the worry, sweat, tears (and usually ill-advised tattoos) involved, then click off before the finale, telling him not to worry, you’ll take care of everything, hey, even the budget.

Control established, grateful brownie points won, budget extended, wedding saved. And if that isn’t a win, win scenario, I don’t know what is.

Found on ruffledblog.com, photography by Red, White & Green Photography

image source, photography by Red, White & Green Photography

what you said

Gillian: “My other half is planning what the boys wear and also planning the drinks menu.”

Leah: “We are both planning our wedding together, he has been involved in every part (excluding the dress). It takes a lot of the stress away to plan it together.”

Gemma: “My other half is taking some coaxing. As he put it he’s only an ornament on the day. I wasn’t best pleased and since then he’s picked up his game! He’s responsible for sorting out music and taking the fellas to get their suits, also he doesn’t know it yet but because he’s a perfectionist he’ll be making the majority of the invites.”

Angie: “Mine wants to be involved so much that I keep telling him it’s about me too, I’m the bride.”

Found on ruffledblog.com, photography by Sarah McKenzie Photography

image source, photography by Sarah McKenzie Photography

 

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterGoogle+share on TumblrPin on PinterestShare on LinkedInEmail to someone

The Editorials: Va-Va-Groom!

February 18th, 2013 | Julia Braime

.

Wedding Magazine

.

.

In this new blog series, The Editorials, I share my pre-published offline content, online.  I write on a freelance basis for numerous regional and National glossies, and rather than be relegated to being rather posh chip paper, I thought that my words might be useful to my online readers who didn’t manage to pick up a print copy of my features.  Double the pretty!

.

.

Wedding Magazine

.

.

The second instalment in this series (click here to see the first, focussing on the trend for all white weddings) catches up on a column I wrote for Wedding Magazine before Christmas, all about giving your groom some va-va-voom!

.

.

Wedding Magazine

.

.

I wrote: The days of identikit grooms are long gone. You might be preoccupied with selecting the perfect wedding gown, but you can bet that your other half is also giving some careful thought to his own wedding day look. For him too, this is a day where he wants raise the style stakes and feel that little bit special.

.

.

Peter Boyd Photography

Image credit: Peter Boyd Photography

.

.

Luckily, there has never been more of a sartorial selection for a groom to choose from. Whether he is a traditionalist looking for a classically cut morning suit or an individual wanting to cut a dash with quirky accessories, it’s now acceptable for the groom to look beyond a hired waistcoat and cravat. Whilst it’s true that his choice of attire should complement the overall style of the bridal party, some of my favourite wedding day images are those where the personality of the groom shines through.

.

.

India Hobson Weddings

Image credit: India Hobson Weddings 

.

Damian Hall

Image credit: Damian Hall Photography

.

.

Top man

.

If he wants to keep his look classic, help him to stand out from the rest of the wedding party by choosing a different colour of tie or more elaborate buttonhole.

.

.

Katy Melling Photography

Image credit: Katy Melling Photography 

.

Katy Melling Photography

Image credit: Katy Melling Photography

.

.

The cravat caveat

.

Rather than sticking to the status quo, encourage your man to mix things up with by adding a special touch. How about a colourful bow tie, socks, braces, sharp shoes or a neckerchief?

.

.

Phil Drinkwater Photography

Image credit:  Phil Drinkwater Photography 

.

David Lawson Studios

Image credit: David Lawson Studios 

.

.

Keep it comfortable

.

For a relaxed celebration or destination wedding he needn’t be trussed up like a turkey. Work with the style of his surroundings and opt for light fabrics and a pale colour palette.

.

.

Andy Hook

Image credit: Andy Hook Photography

.

Lissa Alexandra Photography

Image credit: Lissa Alexandra Photography 

.

.

A man in uniform

.

If he’s decorated, this is his chance to show it off. I also love to see a groom in national dress: kilts at the ready boys, it’s time to show some leg!

.

.

Jonny Draper Photography

.Image credit: Jonny Draper Photography 

.

Andrew Ward Photography

Image credit: Andrew Ward Photography 

.

Toys for the boys

.

Indulge him! If he has a need for speed, why not hire a cool car or vintage scooter to get him to the church on time and in style.

.

.

Insight Photography

Image credit: Insight Photography

.

.

  – Images © 2013 as credited

This is not a sponsored post

Contact Brides Up North to submit your business as a Featured Supplier

.

.

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterGoogle+share on TumblrPin on PinterestShare on LinkedInEmail to someone

Very Significant Other: Getting Your Fiancé Involved

December 17th, 2012 | Julia Braime

David Lawson Studios

.

.

Let’s get Christmas week off to an all-inclusive start with some advice from our regular guest blogger the lovely Rachel of Mosaic Brides about how you can get your other half involved in the wedding planning process.  And this isn’t just about getting the boys in order either, as this advice can apply to any wayward fiancé on either side of the partnership.  Get ‘em involved, people!  Using images from my own wedding (a groom who did as he was told FYI!) by David Lawson Studios

.

Rachel says: For most of us girls an engagement ring isn’t necessary to start planning our big day, it simply signals a time to put our thoughts into action.  Long before we meet Mr or Mrs Right we spend time swooning over wedding dresses, deciding who our bridesmaids will be and how we will dress them – we even think about the flavour of the sponge and filling for our three-tier wedding cake (mine’s a simple iced white cake with vanilla, lemon and chocolate layers, decorated with fresh vintage style flowers)!

.

By contrast our significant other may not have given any consideration to their wedding day, and for some even getting down on one knee does not prompt such thoughts.  As a result it’s sometimes the case that a bride can feel alone during the planning process when her partner takes a back seat and utters those three frustrating words "I don’t mind". But with many couples ditching traditional weddings in favour of more personal affairs, it’s never been more important that input comes from both sides to achieve a day that’s a reflection of both of you. 

.

.

David Lawson Studios

.

.

So, if your husband or wife-to-be is under the impression that their duties end at the proposal, suit hire and picking a best man or woman who will plan them a send off to rival The Hangover, I suggest the following…

.

In the beginning

.

Sit down and talk. From the very start make clear to your fiancé that you want them involved with planning the wedding and the ways in which they can help.

.

Next, discuss your opinions on the main areas like destinations, venues, styling, size of the wedding, food, entertainment and, of course, the budget. To encourage your partner to come up with their own ideas, or to prevent them just going along with what you say, try writing down your ideas separately and then coming back together to discuss your thoughts. While you might have the same ideas on some things other areas might need compromise – it’s no good asking for their opinion and then ignoring it.

.

.

David Lawson Studios

.

.

Work as a team

.

Part of being in a relationship is working as a team, a quality that can be incredibly useful when planning a wedding.

.

Discuss which elements you can do together such as attending wedding fairs and venue visits then look at your strengths and divide some of the other jobs between you.  For example, if one of you is particularly creative then take the lead in styling the venue or designing invitations, if the other is good at research they can spend time looking up venues, entertainment, transport and so on. 

.

It also makes sense to let the person who is good with numbers handle the budget while the more ballsy of the two can take charge when it comes to haggling.

.

.

David Lawson Studios

.

.

Talent spotting

.

Don’t be offended if your partner doesn’t take an interest in every little thing.  It may well be the case that they don’t mind (or even care) which flowers, favours or bridesmaid dresses you have in mind but this provides the perfect opportunity to involve other relatives and friends. Meanwhile your fiancé can take some time out with their side of the bridal party to pick their wedding attire.

.

Also allocate your other half jobs that you know will spike their interest. So if they love music leave them to look for a band or to plan the play list, if they fancy themself as the next Jamie Oliver ask them to consider food options or if they usually organise your annual holiday let them arrange a dream honeymoon.

.

.

David Lawson Studios

.

.

Keep calm and carry on

.

If despite your best efforts you feel that your husband or wife-to-be is still not taking an interest talk to them – communication is key in a relationship and is absolutely essential when it comes to planning a wedding.

Let your other half know that you want them to be involved and explain the ways in which you can inject elements of your personalities into the day as this might help to engage them.  Equally don’t get carried away and leave your partner out – the day belongs to both of you.

.

There is no doubt that planning a wedding is a stressful and demanding task that can lead to arguments but it should also be a time you enjoy together.  To avoid fall outs don’t talk wedding all the time. Try to have a night or two where discussing weddings is strictly off limits, giving you both a break and a chance to spend quality time with one another.

.

Finally and most importantly don’t lose sight of the reasons why you are actually getting married, beyond the paper pompoms and that three tired cake there should be a whole lot of love.

.

.

  – Images © 2012 David Lawson Studios

Rachel Parry of Mosaic Brides is a regular guest writer for Brides Up North

Contact Brides Up North to submit your business as a Featured Supplier 

.

.

Brides Up North UK Wedding Blog

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterGoogle+share on TumblrPin on PinterestShare on LinkedInEmail to someone

Purely Wedding Research, Honest! A Styled Menswear Shoot In The North East

October 27th, 2012 | Julia Braime

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

So, fancy a bit of eye candy on a Saturday?

.

I’m off to see the latest 007 this afternoon so I’ll be getting my kicks Daniel Craig-stylee, and thought it most unfair not to leave something lovely for you ladies to gaze upon, courtesy of Brides Up North Featured Supplier Stan Seaton Photography and Darlington Weddings (pick up the latest issue to see this shoot in print along with my spread on styling a winter wedding). 

.

Plus, I’ve seen first hand that Affleck & Moffat – one of my amazing exhibitors at our Brides Up North Super Showcase Grand Wedding Exhibitions – really know how to dress a gent, so they’d be worth a visit for his wedding day styling.

.

If he asks: its wedding research.  Got it? 

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Jane and Stan of Stan Seaton Photography say: We love photographing brides and ensuring that their wedding day photos reflect how amazingly beautiful and happy they looked and felt on their big day, but it is good to show our clients – and especially the girls – how good their grooms can look too!  When Darlington Weddings offered us the opportunity to do a featured menswear photo shoot for their latest magazine, in conjunction with Affleck & Moffat menswear, Paul David Hairdressing and Crathorne Hall Hotel, we couldn’t resist!

.

I say: Hello, boys!

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Affleck & Moffat Menwear by Stan Seaton Photography

.

.

Little Black Book

.

Images: Stan Seaton Photography

Menswear: Affleck & Moffat

Grooming: Paul David Hairdressing

Venue: Crathorne Hall Hotel

.

.

UK Wedding Blog – Images © 2012 Stan Seaton Photography

Stan Seaton Photography is a Brides Up North Featured Supplier

Contact Brides Up North to submit your business as a Featured Supplier

.

.

Brides Up North UK Wedding Blog

 

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterGoogle+share on TumblrPin on PinterestShare on LinkedInEmail to someone

Wedding Blog WINNER! £2,000 To Spend With Award Winning Confetti & Lace!

June 29th, 2012 | Julia Braime

.

Award Winning Confetti & Lace

.

.

Does anyone have that Friday feeling already?  The only thing I miss about working for “the man” is the intense feeling of elation I felt every Friday at around about 4:55pm. 

.

Now that I’m my own boss and love what I do, plus the fact that you’ll just as likely find me at my desk, out at a shoot or at a wedding event all day on a Saturday means that the feeling has diminished a little, but I still think that Friday has a certain magic.

.

It’s going to get a whole lot more magical for one Brides Up North reader today too, as today I get to announce the winner, drawn by random number generator*, of our headline Spring competition to  win your wedding day clothing for the bride, groom, ushers and bridesmaids worth up to £2,000 with Brides Up North Featured Supplier Award Winning Confetti & Lace. 

.

You can read all about Award Winning Confetti & Lace and their (award winning) service in this interview, definitely worth a visit for any bride to be and her bridal party. 

.

Over 1000 (!) of you entered (1283 to be exact) both online and at the Brides Up North Wedding Exclusives and Super Showcase events this Spring, but there could only ever be one winner.  Thank you so much to everyone for taking part and believe me when I say that I wish I could make each and every one of your day’s today. 

.

.

Award Winning Confetti & Lace

.

.

Let’s quickly recap the prize.  Today’s winning bride will scoop:

.

Wedding Dress from Brides of Harrogate

.

Brides of Harrogate is the largest bridal store in the North of England, right in the centre of the beautiful spa town of Harrogate with ample forecourt parking. It houses some of the most sought after bridal gowns from top designers such as Pronovias, Benjamin Roberts, Justin Alexander and more.

.

There are also large bridesmaid, prom and special occasion wear departments stocking the latest styles in up to 55 colour options with sizes 6-28 catered for! As a premiere stockist of American designer Dessy.com there is a huge choice all of which can be matched to menswear waistcoats and ties – even down to bridesmaids shoes. There are large individual changing rooms and there’s even a menswear department downstairs – all under one roof!

.

Your prize from Brides of Harrogate will include:

.

A beautiful designer wedding gown up to £1,000 in value.

Half price fittings if required (can be either at our Leeds or Harrogate stores).

Free bottle of bubbly for the lucky bride.

Half price dry cleaning after the event.

.

.

Bridesmaid dresses from Award Winning Confetti & Lace

.

Multi-award winning Confetti and Lace of Leeds are leading providers of wedding, bridesmaid and prom dresses in Yorkshire. With bridesmaid styles from fantastic designers as Kelsey Rose, Alfred Angelo and Impression Bridal in many colour options and in store alterations services, you’ll be spoilt for choice! .

.

Your prize from Confetti and Lace will include:

.

3 Bridesmaid Dresses from any of our Designer Ranges up to £200 each.

Up to 55 colour options in sizes from 8-32 (ages 2-16 for Flower Girls/Juniors).

Complimentary bubbly and drinks in store.

Half price alteration charges if required.

.

.

Menswear from Yorkshire Menswear.com

.

Yorkshire Menswear have a branch in Rodley, Leeds and one in the heart of Harrogate. Hire is from an amazing £49 and they are leading suppliers of Cameron Ross providing suits for weddings, black tie events, prom’s, race wear and also carry a great selection of kilts.

.

Some of your party outside of Yorkshire? No problem, book with Yorkshire Menswear.com and they can provide free measure and collection via over 150 outlets nationwide! Tall and large parties catered for.

.

Finalists for Best UK Groomsmen Retailer 2012 – top 5 companies in the UK!

.

Your prize from Yorkshire Menswear.com will include:

.

Up to 4 FREE menswear suit hire packages worth up to £400 in total from our main ranges.

Packages include 7 items including suit, waistcoat, shirt, tie, hanky and cufflinks.

2 Professional suit fittings.

Huge choice and range with jackets up to 60” chest.

.

.

Award Winning Confetti & Lace

.

.

And, without further ado, the lucky winner is…

.

Kimberly

June 11, 2012 | Been with my fantastic fiancé for 10 years next year and we are finally getting married! We are finding it so hard saving and would love a little help, this would be a dream come true, fingers and everything crossed!

.

.

.

Congratulations Kimberley!  You are a winner! 

.

Please contact me by email julia@bridesupnorth.co.uk to claim your prize.

.

For everyone who didn’t win – better luck next time – and watch this space as I’ll be bringing you news of more fabulous Brides Up North competitions very shortly. 

.

Have a lovely Friday everybody!

.

.

*drawn using a random number generator at www.random.org

.

  – Images © 2012 supplied by Award Winning Confetti & Lace

Award Winning Confetti & Lace is a Brides Up North Featured Supplier

Contact Brides Up North to submit your business as a Featured Supplier

.

.

Brides Up North UK Wedding Blog

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterGoogle+share on TumblrPin on PinterestShare on LinkedInEmail to someone