November 26th, 2015 | Julia Braime
image via rusticfolkweddings.com
A honeymoon has predominately always been a holiday exclusive for the newlyweds following their big day, but in recent times we’re seeing the invite being extended to family members, and even friends, in some cases too.
Behold the rise of the familymoon and friendmoon. While the very thought of such might make some brides and grooms wince, others are fully embracing the the more the merrier approach, which gives them the opportunity to share their holiday of a lifetime with more than just a plus one.
So what’s it going to be – ticket for two or invite a few?
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rachel says – all aboard
While I don’t see familymoons and friendmoons becoming as popular as minimoons (what will they invent next?), I do think these new honeymoon concepts could catch on. For there are some couples who can simply grow a little bored of just each other’s company after a few days, even if they are still basking in ‘just married’ love.
On mine and my boyfriend’s recent holiday to Crete for example, we both agreed after a few days that while it was nice to get away from everything (and everyone), it would also be cool to have a few travel companions in tow to share the fun with us.
So perhaps there’s nothing wrong with inviting a few close friends to carry on the wedding party with you abroad? Or, if you’re parents you may well want your children to be a part of the special holiday too. Furthermore you could invite your parents (aka babysitters) along, that way you can enjoy the best of both worlds – family time and alone time, with trusted child care on hand!
Another way of looking at it is that planning a wedding doesn’t come cheap, so combing a honeymoon with the usual friend or family getaway could make better financial sense to some couples too.
Not that they’re short of a bob or two, but the idea of a honeymoon entourage clearly appealed to Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, following their secret LA wedding earlier this year, as they invited several of the A-lister pals to join them on their luxurious post-nuptial holiday in Bora Bora. Speaking to the press about their decision to do so, Justin said that they thought they could either do a ‘normal’ honeymoon just the two of them, or invite friends along to “keep the party going, relax and have fun”.
Well if it’s good enough for Jen!
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julia says – two’s company
Now I’m all about inclusivity and I love a group adventure, but to me, a honeymoon should be a party just for two.
Your honeymoon (especially if taken straight after the wedding – another thing I would definitely advocate) is much needed alone time for newlyweds: time to decompress, relax and get romantic! I think it’s vital that you do this as a twosome, rather than inviting along the world and his wife. You need some time in that lovely ‘just married’ bubble – to enjoy the moment and create some very special memories – just the two of you.
Even if you’ve already got children, I’d also recommend leaving the little ones at home in the care of a much loved grandparent or auntie. Yes, its lovely to spend time as a family, but this moment is all about you and your other half. It’s a time to cherish and enjoy, and after all, it will only be the two of you left in the end when the chicks have flown the nest.
If you can afford it, I’d recommend honeymooning for at least a week, and would suggest using the opportunity (and maybe a little bit of gift money) to do something really memorable. Lying on a beach is brilliant, don’t get me wrong, but step out of your comfort zone together and do something worth writing a postcard home about – try open water diving, a safari, sightseeing in your favourite city, or taking a helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon.
Married life is a new beginning, take some time to celebrate it together, and as to where you decide to do that, well, the world is your oyster…
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what you said on facebook
Kate says: “We’re definitely going away just the two of us – we can’t wait for some alone time after all the wedding planning”.
Emma says: “We are combining the best of both worlds, a week on our own and then a week with our two kids”.
Emilia says: “We’re taking my parents with us, so they can baby sit our 6 month old and also enjoy a relaxing break themselves.”
October 23rd, 2015 | Julia Braime
image source, photography by Jana Williams
For the bride and groom the honeymoon is probably as exciting (if not more so) than the wedding itself as it allows them the opportunity to book a blowout holiday of a lifetime whilst also giving them that much needed time to relax and unwind after experiencing the whirlwind of wedding planning.
Traditionally newlyweds have jetted off on their lavish vacations straight after the wedding, with some couples even leaving their receptions early to escape to honeymoon heaven as soon as is socially acceptable.
However, the rise of the minimoon, work commitments and budget constraints have all played their part in more and more couples opting to delay their honeymoon until several months after the wedding has taken place.
While some couples just couldn’t bear the exhilarating high to hugely depressing low of returning to work immediately after a wedding instead of sunning it up on a beach somewhere, others are coming around to the idea of stretching out the celebrations with a postponed getaway.
So what’s it going to be, moon soon or moon later?
image source, photography by Ala Cortez
rachel says: hold your honeymoon horses…
I think I’ve expressed my love of dragging out celebrations for as long as humanly possible before on blog (in particular my birthday). It may therefore come as little surprise that I’m all for the delayed honeymoon – and according to our feedback from newlyweds, I’m not alone.
The main reason I’d be happy to postpone is that it would simply give me something to look forward to a little further down the line. You see I’m one of these people that believes good things should NOT come to an end, though admittedly they have to, and so I always like to have something exciting in the calendar to keep my spirits elevated.
Upon thinking more deeply about the topic, and listening to newlyweds’ opinions, delaying the honeymoon would also allow more time to save up and therefore stand a better chance of being able to afford something worthy of the ‘holiday of a lifetime’ title – because that’s exactly what it should be. We all know how expensive weddings can be so even with support from friends and family it can be tricky to save for a luxurious getaway at the same time.
I must add somewhat of a disclaimer though – while I would be happy to put off the main honeymoon for some time, a minimoon would be an absolutely must following the wedding to soften the back-to-work blow. Seriously guys, as a blogger in the industry I would sink to a whole new level of depression if I was to return to my desk almost immediately after saying ‘I do’ to then be faced with other happy wedding couples talking about their fab weddings – surely would result in one’s self in with the laptop cable!
image source, photography by Rebecca Vale Photography
julia says: what are you waiting for?!
The best things in life are almost always made sweeter by the anticipation of waiting for them: a first date, the proposal, the big day itself… but I would argue that a honeymoon just isn’t one of them.
Ok, I get it, you’re fearing the post wedding blues and want something to look forward to, but I implore you – going back to work on the Monday morning after your wedding is just not acceptable!
‘Aha!’ you think, we’ll just fill that void with a minimoon, thereby delaying the post wedding come down and also allowing us the excitement of a swanky mainmoon later in the year. No dice people… the point of a honeymoon is exactly that, you’re all sweet and cuddly and in the wedding love bubble. By delaying the honeymoon, you run the risk of making it into just another (albeit fabulous!) holiday.
On a honeymoon, it’s all rubbing suncream into each other’s backs, trying to get upgraded by showing off your sparkly new metal ware and the wedding certificate and hours spent dissecting every last detail of your perfect day. Wait, and I can guarantee that it’ll all be carrying your own case, arguing over the duvet and well, just business as usual really. Which is not the point at all.
So, here’s my plan. Jet off right after the big day and resist the urge to open your wedding pressies before you go. You’ll get to experience the post wedding bliss of a romantic retreat, relax and recharge after the biggest day of your lives, and come home to a massive pile of gifts. If that doesn’t put a smile on your face, you can always book a minibreak for a month after you get back. Ps. Start as you mean to go on, that’s what I say…
P.S. Yes, we will be monitoring Rachel very closely here at Brides Up North Towers in the days following her own wedding #eversoslightlyconcerned
what you said on facebook:
Elle says: “I live for holidays, so I want as many mini celebrations as possible. We’ll be going away after the wedding then again later in the year.”
Jenny says: “We’ve got a little girl so we intend to have a week just the two of us straight after the wedding and then we’re having week two at home with her.”
Peta says: “We’re heading off the morning after our big day, I think its good to have some time alone straight after such a massive event.”
Kate says: “What honeymoon? I’ve left it up to my partner and we’ve still got nothing booked… yet!”
August 5th, 2015 | Rachel Parry
When in need of a little R&R sometimes a day away doesn’t quite cut it, and so an indulgent overnight stay is required to truly unwind.
Thankfully as I built up to a week’s annual leave to recharge the batteries away from Brides Up North HQ (hey I love my job, but we all need a little rest now and again), I was offered the opportunity to visit the fabulous mill wheel spa on the edge of the Staffordshire Peaks for an overnight break with my partner in tow. How’s that for timing?
All in the name of work (I’m so dedicated to the cause) I took up the kind invitation knowing the venue would provide a perfect subject for a Blissed Out Bride post, in which we explore ideal places for our readers to enjoy some pre and post wedding pampering, as well as girly hen dos. My assumptions were right, as once again we’ve discovered a tranquil retreat in the north of the country for brides and grooms to put on their ‘to do’ list.
The journey from South Yorkshire took just over an hour, passing through picturesque areas such as Ladybower, Castleton and Buxton before arriving at The Three Horse Shoes Country Inn in rural Blackshaw Moor, which houses Mill Wheel Spa.
A family run business since 1981, the hospitality is among the warmest I have ever experienced as we were greeted by Katie Kirk who tends to the inn, alongside her husband and brother- and sister-in-law. Though the level of care, pride and customer service has clearly remained throughout, it soon became apparent that the inn itself has undergone quite a few changes over the years in order to deliver something special to its guests.
Among its most recent additions is Mill Wheel Spa, which offers a wide choice of day and overnight spa packages, including those specifically designed for hen dos, husbands and wives-to-be and newlyweds.
The Mini Moon Break package that we were invited to experience included use of the spa facilities with a rasul and ‘beach hut’ experience, a three-course evening meal in The Stables Restaurant, overnight accommodation, breakfast and a treatment each before departure the following day – boy were we in for a treat!
First to drop the bags off – we were staying in one of the inn’s top garden rooms, complete with four-poster bed and private outdoor hot tub. After a look around we headed to the spa making a mental note to return to the room in enough time before our evening meal to try out that hot tub.
The spa’s facilities focus on a number of hot and cold experiences to clear out the pores and awaken the senses and so we followed the suggested route to get the most out of our visit. First on the agenda is the visual centre piece of the spa, and a UK first, The Mill Wheel Shower, which pays homage to the history of the James Brindley Water Mill in neighbouring Leek and Cheddleton Flint Mill, which were once an important part of the area’s local industry and economy. The large revolving mill pours out water from its shovels in intervals, alternatively warm and cold, a bit like a tame game of Russian roulette.
We are then advised to use The Peak District Stonebath for a ‘steam bath experience’ followed by The Farmers Sauna, with a quick dip in The Cedar Plunge Pool in between (refreshing but freezing!). Next our rasul treatment in a special chamber made for two. We were instructed to smooth mineral rich mud onto our skin while the room heated up, which provided a lot of entertainment as we came to look like we’d emerged from a swamp. The results however were fabulous – at the end of the 30 minutes water rained down washing the mud away and revealing hydrated, soft skin.
By this point the sun had made an appearance so we ventured outside to the spa’s garden for some refreshments, including a little fizz. Here there’s also a three metre square hydrotherapy pool set at an inviting 36 degrees, so we had to have a quick dip. Like much of the inn, this area enjoys stunning views over the Roaches and surrounding countryside, which enhanced our already chilled out mood.
May 1st, 2015 | Julia Braime
That’s the honeymoon kicks sorted.
(Our life is just a little bit more complete because these exist).
February 4th, 2015 | Rachel Parry
It may be cold outside but if you’ve planned a destination wedding or an exotic honeymoon your mind may well be on hotter climes.
Either of the above will call for some serious summertime shopping and fortunately we’re just starting to see collections for the warmer seasons ahead roll out as the dregs of the January sales are pushed aside.
And with Spring/Summer ranges comes an abundance of killer swimwear, which is an absolute must for all you beach babe brides.
Having recently discovered New Look’s impressive lingerie collection, I noticed that the High Street favourite also has a stunning choice of swimwear. From cute two-pieces with matching cover-ups to sexy one-pieces with flirtatious cut out detailing, brides-to-be will be spoilt for choice. Better still the designs carry very modest prices tags meaning ladies can easily splash out on two or three different options for their honeymoon wardrobe.
As a starting point ladies might want to consider which style of swimwear suits them best: faithful halter necks, bare-all bandeaus, tops with straps for extra support, tie-at-the-side bottoms, high waisted designs or classic brief bottoms.
Then there’s the question of colour and design. Luckily, New Look has all areas covered with bright, patterned and neutral offerings.
Perhaps the most striking pieces within the collection are the orange caged top and bottoms and the lattice two-piece design. Both use attention-grabbing cut away detailing to draw the eye. The caged design offers slightly more cover-up with a long-line bikini top but its vibrant hue will not suit all skin tones so choose with care. The lattice design – in one of Spring/Summer’s hottest colours khaki – is also bound to turn heads. It’s very much posing-poolside style swimwear though as unless you undo and roll down the detailed part of the top you will be facing strap mark hell!
Further cut-away options can be found in plainer designs, such as the simple yet stunning white halter neck design and the sophisticated black caged bikini.
More practical pieces come in the form of bralette tops. We’ve seen them on the clothing catwalks and now the midriff revealing tops have spilt over into the swimwear department. Not only are such designs on-trend but they offer a little more cover-up and way more support than skimpier designs. Ladies with larger busts looking for maximum support should also consider crop top bikini designs which are big news for 2015. New Look’s Aztec print design is a stunning example, offering on-the-go-girls comfort and style.
As well as a choice of detailed cover-ups, I’m a big fan of the beach trousers New Look has included within its Spring/Summer collection. The sheer, patterned and lose-fitted designs are easy to throw on both two and from the beach or for lazing around the beach bar – I’ll drink to that!
January 6th, 2015 | Rachel Parry
As the cold weather and dark nights continue to linger on it seems appropriate to brighten up our pretty pages with the next installment of our wedding alphabet. H is all about holidays: honeymoons to be exact.
After saying the big ‘I dos’ your first getaway as Mr and Mrs is a pretty big deal, meaning careful planning is required to ensure your honeymoon is an experience to remember for all the right reasons.
Couples can often get caught up with planning the big day and the honeymoon becomes an afterthought – but the key to achieving a dream post-wedding holiday is to research the options well in advance.
Here are a few useful pointers to ensure you’re jet set when it comes to creating that once in a lifetime holiday.
Just like planning your wedding, booking a honeymoon ultimately comes down to what you can afford. If you’re a couple that love to travel it may be that you’ve tightened the purse strings in other areas of the wedding to free-up more funds for your big holiday. On the other hand you might be on the hunt for something cheap and cheerful, having gone all out with your wedding celebrations. As many couples now cohabit before tying the knot, it’s become a trend for brides and grooms to ask for contributions to their honeymoon instead of traditional gifts, to boost their budget. Alternatively guests might choose to pay for an activity or romantic surprise, such as a private meal on the beach, to make your experience all the more special.
Image by Ciara Richardson
map it out
Once you have set a budget it’s time to decide where to go. In order to avoid explosive arguments before making it down the aisle, couples should take into account one another’s holiday preferences and interests and work towards a destination that will offer something for both. Think about your holiday personalities and what you want from your holiday; are you beach bums, adventurers, culture vultures, cruisers or minimooners.
it’s all about timing
The time that you decide to go on honeymoon is usually determined by the time of year you wed, your budget and/or the weather. Gather a short list of places you’re considering and check out the low and peak season prices to see how they work with your budget. Also check the usual weather conditions for the time of year you’re looking to jet off to avoid landing yourself in hurricane or rainy seasons. If the destination your heart is set on is pricey at the time of year you marry, consider planning a minimoon for just after your wedding and save your main honeymoon until a later date when prices are more affordable.
To go all inclusive or not, that is the question. An all in honeymoon can save you a fair few bucks with your room, plus all meals, unlimited drinks, entertainment, airport transfers, and various activities included in one flat price. A package break also means less planning before hand and while you’re away as you don’t have to worry about where to eat or visit. However, there are a few cons to bear in mind as well. Going all inclusive means you are less likely to venture out and explore the country’s cuisine and culture. Also it’s important to research your shortlisted resorts beforehand, by looking at recent reviews, to ensure restaurants and rooms remain up-to-scratch so you’re not stuck in honeymoon hell for a week or longer.
play the ‘just married’ card
Who doesn’t love a freebie? Remember, both while you’re booking and are actually on your honeymoon, you can use the fact that you’re newlyweds as a way of getting a few little extras. Wedding couples have been known to get complimentary travel and room upgrades, free gifts and on-the-house drinks simply for sharing their good news. As the saying goes, if you don’t ask, you don’t get.
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