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Wednesday Wedding Inspiration: Lovely Lilacs

May 29th, 2013 | Julia Braime

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Lovely Lilacs Wedding Inspiration

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1. Johanna Hehir ‘Lila’ 2. Delicate Floral Wedding Cake 3. Floral Hanging Birdcages 4. ‘April’ Floral Hair Wreath 5. Jennifer Behr Halo 6. Floral Tablescape 7. Purple Stalacite Necklace 8. Agnes & Norman ‘Audrey’ Heels 9. Polka Dot Cutlery Case 10. Mismatched Bridesmaids

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All good things must come to an end, and today is our regular guest blogger Katy of What Katy Did Next’s last post here on these swirly silver pages for a while.  Katy’s been creating beautiful mood boards for us for over a year and in this time has seriously seen her business take off.  We’ll be sad to see her go!  Whilst Katy’s busy making pretty things, we are introducing some brand new regular features to the site, so watch this space – news soon.  In the meantime, it’s over to Katy…

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Katy says:  I don’t often get excited when I hear lilac as the main colour scheme for a wedding – with images of girly pastels all over the internet for inspiration. Even bride Rachel wasn’t sure about incorporating her favourite colour into her big day. The lovely bride to be who marries late next spring, asked for my help with an inspiration board full of beautiful floral displays, an outdoorsy rustic vibe and of course… lilac!

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I’ve blended lilac into the colour palette with mismatched bridesmaids, whoSE dresses were all handmade by the bride and her mother! Of course if you don’t moonlight as the mice from Cinderella, try Dessy or twobirds bridesmaid for similar styles. You could even take pictures to a local dressmaker for a quote? The beautiful drape in the dresses are perfect for a boho feel – to be teamed with pretty flip flops, loose waves and fresh flowers. I adore the purple stalactite necklace from Etsy.com shop FriedaSophie. The unique pendant is perfect as a gift to your maids. 

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The bridal gown is ‘Lila’ (not lilac!) and is one of many gorgeous dresses from Johanna Hehir. Her designs are perfect for an outdoor affair – the fabric of this particular design will look spectacular floating in the breeze. The shoes are from Rachel Simpson’s new Agnes & Norman range – i absolutely love brides in a coloured shoe and this tone is breath-taking. 

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Not all venues are suitable for this look but if you’re a lover of spacious, neat tablescapes then the beautiful hanging birdcage displays could be perfect in place of centrepieces, the colours can be reflected on the table with mismatched vintage crockery or kept crisp white and clean with colourful place cards – or cute cutlery pouches like the polkadot package which doubles as a place setting (bottom, centre). If you’d rather go all out on an extravagant centrepiece, I love the huge rustic crate full of beautiful florals in all shades of purple – including lilac!

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Wednesday Wedding Inspiration: Whispers Of Blue

May 15th, 2013 | Julia Braime

Whispers Of Blue Wedding Inspiration

1. Tulips Image 2. Jenny Packham ‘Shukura’ Gown 3. ‘Perdita’ Headpiece 4. Floral Cake 5. Suede Shoes 6. Upcycled Frame Noticeboards 7. Alex Monroe Flying Swallow Necklace 8. Table Decor 9. Bridesmaids Gowns

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This morning on the wedding blog our regular guest blogger and epic mood board builder Katy of What Katy Did Next is getting pale and interesting with a wash of blue and grey…

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Katy says:  I think perhaps I’m getting a little psychic! After yesterday’s splendid weather, this fortnight’s wedding inspiration board is perfectly suited to today’s grey cloud and rain!  I have a huge colour crush on the faded dove grey blue used in my ‘Perdita’ headpiece from my Winter Collection (top, right). I love the almost colourless shade and how beautifully it teams with greys, silvers and pale shades.

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The colour palette is beautifully versatile in that it can be glammed up with crystal and sparkle for a fashionable Wintery ‘do’, add lace bunting or balloons and use it for an outdoorsy barn wedding. I even love the idea of adding a few more stripes and having a nautical theme!

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The simple tulip bouquet tied with velvet ribbon is amazing as a bridal bouquet – but if you’re looking for something more extravagant try a similar style with hydrangea, ranunculus and peonies? The tulips would work perfectly for your maids, which I love in their mismatched styles (bottom, right).

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Black and white photos work perfectly with the colour scheme – I love them dotted on the upcycled frame noticeboards I found after fawning after delicious personalised silverware from The Faded Nest. The frames could also double as seating charts or menu’s and you could decorate them with old family photos from both bride and groom’s family for a personal touch in your wedding decor!

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Don’t forget to keep your requests coming in to either me or Julia. I’d love to help you out with any inspiration dilemmas…

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Remember: the plan is to share a new inspiration board in this time slot every other week, either compiled by myself, regular guest blogger Katy or YOU: get in touch with your own ideas and inspiration boards! We’ll be discussing our inspirations behind the images too so it’s simply going to be a whole load of lovely.

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If you are a little less arty but in need of inspiration and still want to play along, we will also be taking requests for colour schemes and themes and making bespoke boards for my readers. Please contact me to suggest a theme or colour scheme.

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Click here to see previous Wednesday Wedding Inspiration Mood Boards

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Wednesday Wedding Inspiration: Ballerina Beach

April 17th, 2013 | Julia Braime

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Balllerina Beach Wedding Inspiration

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1. Groom’s Attire 2. BHLDN Isadora Gown 3. Leather Braid Bracelet 4. Rose Gold Flats 5. Sand Tealight Decor 6. Fishtail Plait Image 7. Driftwood Seating Chart 8. Table Decor 9. Coral Bridesmaids 10. Pink Wedding Ruffle Cake

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Today’s Wednesday Wedding Inspiration board by our regular guest blogger Katy of What Katy Did Next combines two of life’s most beautiful – ballet and the beach – to drop dead gorgeous effect.  Don’t know about you, but I’m hoping my dancing shoes will take me to places as pretty as this come Summer!

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Katy says:  This week dancer Lauren asked me to create her a wedding inspiration board with a beautiful theme. The bride and her groom are having a beach wedding with colours to reflect Lauren’s passion for ballet. The board was to contain colours of blush and coral, and to contain hints of the beach theme without using shells and ‘cheesy’ beach paraphernalia.

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Lauren loves florals, but was unsure how to introduce them into a beach wedding. I love the idea of placing various flowers in pretty glasses or small vases and dotting them around on the tables. The floral and driftwood wreathes (bottom left) combined with coral are beautiful arranged around large storm lanterns and are a sophisticated way of creating a beachy look with florals. I also love the really natural look of the floral wreathes in the bridesmaids’ hair!

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For the bride I chose a beautiful gown with sparkling sequins and a floaty tulle skirt (perfect for dancing – or breezy wedding shots)! Instead of a veil, a loose chignon updo or a structured fishtail braid would look stunning. I added a touch of metallic with rose gold in the accessories. The flat sandals have a touch of glam about them and are a great alternative to manoeuvring heels on the beach.

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My favourite part? The driftwood seating chart! A simple but effective idea that can easily be DIY’d by you and your groom or maids!

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Remember: the plan is to share a new inspiration board in this time slot every other week, either compiled by myself, regular guest blogger Katy or YOU: get in touch with your own ideas and inspiration boards! We’ll be discussing our inspirations behind the images too so it’s simply going to be a whole load of lovely.

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If you are a little less arty but in need of inspiration and still want to play along, we will also be taking requests for colour schemes and themes and making bespoke boards for my readers. Please contact me to suggest a theme or colour scheme.

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Click here to see previous Wednesday Wedding Inspiration Mood Boards

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Wednesday Wedding Inspiration: Pale & Peacock

March 20th, 2013 | Julia Braime

Pale and Peacock Wedding Inspiration

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1. Benjamin Roberts Gown 2. Lace Headpiece 3. Hydrangea Bouquet Image 4. Peacock Hair Clip 5. Hydrangea Lantern Centrepiece 6. Foliage Bouquet 7. Table Settings 8. Ivory Satin Knotted Peep Toes 9. Hydrangea Tiered Cake 10. Teal Maxi

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Pale and Peacock Accessories

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Bridesmaids Hair Grips 2. Long Blue Stone Necklace 3. Colour Drop Earrings 4. Lace Hair Grips 5. Pearl Bracelet 6. Pearl & Crystal Drop Earrings

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Happy hump day Brides Up North… we are now officially on the downhill to the weekend! Our regular guest blogger Katy of What Katy Did Next is back with another double whammy of gorgeous wedding inspiration mood boards that should get your feathers ruffling!

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Katy says:  This week’s wedding inspiration board is for bride to be Jane, who wanted inspiration for her November 2013 Wedding – in particular, accessories for her and her bridesmaids. Jane is having a beautifully plain white/ivory colour scheme with the only colour being the peacock blue of her bridesmaids filtering into the floral decor.

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Although undecided on what flowers she will use, I have demonstrated the use of colour with elegant hydrangeas. On first thought I was unsure how I would find blue flowers in a tone to compliment the peacock colouring – however, I found a beautiful bouquet (left, centre image) with a lovely blue hiding amongst pale florals and greenery, which i feel is the perfect way to introduce the teal-like shade into your bouquet without the flowers looking artificial. I also experimented with using different hues of blue hydrangea in the palette – the top right bouquet works gorgeously with the bridesmaids’ dress colour – and fabulous on the ombre effect floral cake.

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The bride’s dress is a beautiful ivory silk with embellished areas of lace and a sweetheart neckline and because of all the detail of the dress I have teamed this style with some chic satin heels, with a simple knotted detail – I particularly like the idea of wearing these as you ‘tie the knot’! If you are after something that is a closer match to your dress – why not buy a plain pair of shoes and decorate with shoe clips or find a dressmaker/accessories designer to customise them for you?

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I like the idea of keeping the Bride’s accessories pale and colourless like the colour scheme – a neat lace headpiece or something pearly and decorative with crystals or sequins if you’re looking for an added bit of glam! You can be a bit more adventurous colour wise with the bridesmaid accessories – I’ve added two peacock hair clip styles, but if feathers aren’t your thing, keep it simple with some sparkly rhinestone grips or even mimic the lace of your dress in their hair accessories. Alternatively you could treat your maids to some gorgeous statement earrings – drop or chandelier earrings speak for themselves meaning you don’t even need hair accessories or a necklace.

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I hope this has helped inspire! Keep your theme/colour requests coming in to myself and Julia – lets hope for some much better weather so we can have some fun with Spring shades!

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Remember: the plan is to share a new inspiration board in this time slot every other week, either compiled by myself, regular guest blogger Katy or YOU: get in touch with your own ideas and inspiration boards! We’ll be discussing our inspirations behind the images too so it’s simply going to be a whole load of lovely.

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If you are a little less arty but in need of inspiration and still want to play along, we will also be taking requests for colour schemes and themes and making bespoke boards for my readers. Please contact me to suggest a theme or colour scheme.

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Click here to see previous Wednesday Wedding Inspiration Mood Boards

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Are You Sitting Comfortably..? Tackling The Seating Plan!

March 13th, 2013 | Julia Braime

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No Seating Plan

Always an easy option!  Image sourced via Zoe Lewis via Pinterest

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Ahh, now this is a task that I remember from my own wedding.  It took hours and at the end of it all, I still couldn’t be 100% sure that everyone had a seat… Luckily, it all worked out in the end, and yours will too.  Just try to resist the urge to play matchmaker or seek revenge, and with our regular guest blogger Rachel of Mosaic Brides tips you’ll find the perfect place for everyone. 

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Rachel says: Sitting comfortably? Then I’ll begin…

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The task of planning a wedding sees a bride and groom go through many different emotions, ranging from excitement and happiness, right through to anxiety and despair.

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Drawing up the dreaded seating plan usually stirs up the latter emotions causing a couple to endure sleepless nights and countless arguments as they debate where best to place guests in order to avoid family feuds, disapproving looks and Pinot Grigio-fuelled outbursts.

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The wedding breakfast is a main feature of the big day and a carefully constructed seating plan can be key to achieving the desired atmosphere. While there is no right or wrong way to approach this tedious task, the following might help…

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First things first…

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It might be the job you’re dreading most but don’t keep putting it off. In the first instance talk to the wedding coordinator at your chosen venue to find out what size and shape tables you will have for your celebration and how best to arrange them to accommodate your guests. From here you can set to work on a draft seating plan which you can then amend at a later date when you know exactly who will be attending. To save time (and perhaps an entire rainforest) it’s a good idea to draw up a seating plan on a computer rather than by hand, that way if you make a mistake you don’t have to draw it all out again. Better still, there are handy seating plan tools available online which can make the job a whole lot easier by allowing you to make changes at the click of a button and amend right up until the last minute.

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Taking Centre Stage…

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Seating plans usually begin with the top table and deciding whether or not to have one. For those who want to stick to tradition the top table is usually made up of eight places; the bride and groom, flanked by the bride’s parents, then the groom’s parents, followed by the best man and chief bridesmaid. For those with divorced parents who have remarried the top table may need extending a little. Alternatively to avoid seating parents in close proximity who do not see eye-to-eye, you could have a top table made up of the bridesmaids and groomsmen leaving parents to join family tables.

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Another option is to have a ‘sweet heart’ table just for the bride and groom which will allow you to spend some precious time together as husband and wife during the reception. Couples with children may want to seat them at the sweet heart table too.  Meanwhile other brides and grooms have been known to invite certain guests to join them at their table for certain courses.

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Shake things up…

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Most couples ask themselves the question of whether to mix guests up or to keep family and friend groups confine to separate tables.

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The aim of many couples is to create an enjoyable atmosphere by seating guests where they will feel most comfortable and where conversation will flow freely. This usually means putting those of similar ages with common interests together. So beyond close family and friends, who are generally seated closet to the top table, there might be tables of extended family, family friends, childhood friends, university friends and colleagues.

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Those who do want to mix things up will need to decide how best to do it. Perhaps you could take a couple of guests from each of the different groups and place them on a table together with a bridesmaid or groomsman acting as ‘host’. There is also the option of drawing up different seating plans for different courses so guests move tables and mingle with others (though this one sounds like a recipe for indigestion). 

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Be clear…

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In order to help things run smoothly on the day clearly display a seating plan in the entrance to the reception room directing guests to their allocated places. Also be sure to exhibit table names/numbers clearly and use place cards with first and surnames to avoid confusion.

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Turn the tables…

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For some grabbing a seat scenarios should only be experienced on Ryanair flights but for others it’s seen as a simple solution to the seating plan headache – take inspiration from the image at the head of this feature and let your guests decide where to sit. While this approach is highly likely to cause chaos in formal dining settings it can work well for more relaxed wedding breakfasts such as barbecue buffets and outdoor picnics.

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And remember – you can only do so much to encourage a good atmosphere – the rest is down to your guests.

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Wednesday Wedding Inspiration – Delicately Deco

February 6th, 2013 | Julia Braime

Art Deco & Navy Wedding Inspiration

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1. Bouquet 2. Jewelled Tulle Cuff 3. Asymmetric Gown 4. Beatrice Lace Dress 5. Gold & Navy Floral Cake 6. Bridesmaid Bouquet 7. ‘Ginger’ Gold Heels 8. Table Setting 9. Sapphire Ring 10. Sequinned Aisle

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Sequin confetti anyone?  I thought that might get you thinking.  Our regular guest blogger Katy of What Katy Did Next has classy sparkle covered. 

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Katy says:  This week Bride to be Sophie asked me for a little inspiration with accessories and flowers for her big day. With navy bridesmaids, a vintage 20s/30s feel and a love of peony roses I set about creating something super stylish for this bride with a nod to the Art Deco period of design.

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Navy is such a stylish colour and it can mix well with basically anything. For a modern vibe mix it with nude, blush pinks, mustard yellow or a nautical red. I chose a palette of navy, ivory and glittering metallics to really spread the vintage theme. If your bridesmaids are in a simple gown you can have a lot of fun – have them in matching headwear, heels, sashes or cuffs (or all)!  As a gift for your maids, get them matching clutch bags to carry all their wedding essentials – some brides are even opting for their maids to carry a pretty clutch down the aisle in place of a bouquet. In the board I have picked a simple hydrangea pomander to let the detail of the lace dress do all the talking.

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Sophie mentioned that she loved peonies so why not have a full bouquet of peony blooms wrapped at the stems in the colour of your bridesmaids’ gowns – and for a glitzy vintage touch a brooch or embellished ribbon? The bouquet I chose features Peonies paired with slightly cheaper flowers perfect for any budget – hydrangea, cabbage roses, berries and foliage. These pale flowers look amazing as centrepieces on a navy table setting too. If your table is pale use metallic vases, blue glass or candelabra with navy candles to reflect your colour palette.

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My favourite part of the board? Bottom right – Sequins scattered down the aisle! A lovely spangly touch for the magpie in all of us. If your venue isn’t suited to this – hand sequins out as confetti for your guests or add them to your table decor? They’re sure to make some amazing images as well as filling your day with magic!

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Remember: the plan is to share a new inspiration board in this time slot every other week, either compiled by myself, regular guest blogger Katy or YOU: get in touch with your own ideas and inspiration boards! We’ll be discussing our inspirations behind the images too so it’s simply going to be a whole load of lovely.

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If you are a little less arty but in need of inspiration and still want to play along, we will also be taking requests for colour schemes and themes and making bespoke boards for my readers. Please contact me to suggest a theme or colour scheme.

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Click here to see previous Wednesday Wedding Inspiration Mood Boards

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Are You Kidding? Children At Your Wedding

November 7th, 2012 | Julia Braime

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She’s never one to shy away from the tough topics is our resident guest blogger Rachel of Mosaic Brides, is she?  Now that my Mum is just about speaking to me after our last advice post handling the tough topic of pushy parents, Rach is back to debate that age old issue of whether or not to include children at your wedding. We would love to hear your thoughts too – leave a comment at the end of the post to contribute your own two cents. 

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Image credit: www.sodahead.com

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Rachel says: The debate of whether to invite children to a wedding is one that rattles on, for there is no wrong or right answer – it’s a case of personal preferences and individual circumstances. The decision is ultimately down to the bride and groom who will need to approach the sensitive subject with care.

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While some couples’ worst nightmare would be a child crying throughout the ceremony and running riot at the reception, others could not imagine their big day without the little people in their lives there to celebrate it with them.

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Who to invite

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Initially couples should decide if they’re inviting children to the wedding or not.

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The venue or style of the wedding may make this decision very straight forward for some couples. For example brides and grooms may select a venue that doesn’t allow children full stop. Alternatively, they might have planned an evening celebration followed by a cocktail party in an exclusive bar/restaurant that would not be suitable for children.

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If your chosen venue is child friendly the first thing to look at is numbers. First draw up your adult guest list and then see how much it would increase if you were to invite children. While for small families this might just add a handful of extra guests others can rack up more than 30 additional invites. The question now is can your venue cater for this amount of guests and does your budget stretch far enough to cover the costs?

If not more consideration is needed. Can you slim down the guest list by using an age cut off, such as over 12s only? Alternatively you could invite children from the immediate family only, or just those who you are closet to. For example you might have a close relationship with your best friend’s children but may have never even met your cousin’s offspring. Though it can be difficult to explain to perplexed parents you can just invite the children who you consider to be your nearest and dearest. You may also choose to just invite the children who you have selected to be part of the wedding party i.e. flower girls, bridesmaids, ring bearers.

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Another consideration is babies. Parents of newborns in particular may not be able to leave their baby with a sitter due to feeding constraints as well as separation anxiety. Therefore you may need to make allowances in these situations.

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Image credit: www.beautyandthegroom.com

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How to address invitations

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Once you have made your decision the most challenging part is to come – how to address the invitations.

Unfortunately it’s not unusual for guests to assume children are invited or to challenge your decision when they discover their child has been excluded.

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If you aren’t inviting any children it may be worth pointing this out on the invite with a line stating it is an ‘adult only ceremony/reception’.

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Meanwhile if you are inviting select children you should list their name on the invitation to make this clear or include a separate ‘child invite’ within. When inviting full families you can address the invitation to the parent(s) and family.

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If you do come up against a guest who either assumes their child is invited or wants to know why their child has been left out you can explain that you have done so because you need to limit the guest list for practical not personal reasons.

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How to cater for children

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If you do choose to invite children you might want to think about how to keep them entertained during the day so parents and little ones alike can enjoy the celebrations.

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During the meal be sure to seat parents with their children and serve the young ones their meals first to keep them happy. You may be able to save money and heartache by choosing a kids menu for the younger children of pizza or hotdogs so they eat the food rather than pushing it around the plate. Older children may prefer to be treated like an adult and would therefore prefer a smaller portion of the adult meal.

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For entertainment you could have a kids’ room with toys, games and crafts overseen by a hired babysitter so parents can let their hair down and enjoy the party knowing that their children are in a safe and fun environment. Alternatively you could give the children goody bags with a present, puzzles and colouring pencils or hire a children’s entertainer. For outdoor ceremonies garden games and activities can be great fun for both adults and children, whether you choose to hire a giant Jenga set or go all out with bouncy castle.

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In the evening discos and/or live bands will keep guests of all ages entertained. You could even request a few songs that you know will appeal to your younger guests – after all what’s a wedding without a child sliding across the dance floor on their knees?!

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What do you think Brides Up North?

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Pushy Parents? How To Handle Them.

October 26th, 2012 | Julia Braime

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Well, she’s a brave one is our Rachel!  Today, our resident guest blogger and editor of Mosaic Brides takes a look at the age old (literally) issue of pushy parents during the wedding planning process – and offers her tips for dealing with the problem.

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Mum: I would just like to make it clear that I did not write this feature.

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Rachel says: When announcing your engagement family and friends instantly want to know what you have planned for the big day and how they can help.  While suggestions are great there can be a fine line between helpful and pushy. It’s always a nice idea to take other peoples’ opinions into account but you couldn’t possibly please everybody.

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Today most couples ditch truly traditional weddings in favour of personalised ceremonies that are a reflection of the bride and groom as individuals and as a couple.  Parents and grandparents in particular can find this idea a little hard to comprehend, coming from generations when most weddings were done a set way and their elders called the shots.  For this reason it’s not uncommon from a bride or groom’s relatives to become somewhat overbearing during the planning process, especially if they are contributing to the wedding fund.

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At such an emotionally charged time it’s important to handle this situation with care – you don’t want to add to the stress of planning a wedding with a family feud.  Pick your battles wisely and prepare to compromise. What you want as a couple is important but your parents have waited a long time for this day too and without their financial support there might not be a wedding at all.

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Here are some suggestions on where to make allowances for peoples’ opinions without having your wedding hijacked…

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Decide what you want

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Sit down as a couple and decide what are the most important aspects of the wedding that you won’t budge on – the venue, the style of the wedding, size of the guest list, the entertainment…

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This way you can explain to your friends and family what you have planned. Seeing how much thought you have put into it should reflect how much it means to the two of you and they should want to help you reach those goals rather than overriding or interrupting your plans.

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Consider where input would be helpful

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Look at areas where you would appreciate help, or perhaps where you are stuck for ideas and would like people to make suggestions. This might be asking your parents about food choices and transport, quizzing your grandparents on their favourite hymns and readings or asking your siblings for music suggestions.

Giving people a ‘job’ or asking their opinion will show that you trust their judgement, value their thoughts and most importantly want them to be involved.

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Dealing with MOB and MIL

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The mother of the bride and the mother- in-law: perhaps the two most likely people to become pushy during the planning process.  There could be different reasons for their need to get over involved.

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Mothers of the bride are naturally over the moon their little girl is getting married but the excitement can easily spill over into trying to take control. Don’t forget they have looked after you your whole life and have helped you plan things every step of the way. Of course it’s important to share those special moments with your mum and respect her suggestions, but she too should respect your wishes.

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For a mother of the groom it can sometimes be a little resentment or upset that they are no longer the first women in their son’s life which causes them to try to take the reins.

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In the above situations try to remain calm and take time to listen to their suggestions. Sometimes being heard is enough. If they persist you may have to sit them down and remind them whose wedding it is while explaining how you would like to include them in your plans to show them you care.  Giving them tasks such as making the cake or helping to research venues will make them feel involved, as will taking them along to dress fittings, hair trials and florist appointments.

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A harmonious journey

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In short, look at where compromises can be made and take suggestions into account but don’t lose sight of your vision for the day or feel railroaded into changing your plans to suit others – you could regret it later down the line.

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A big part of a wedding is about bringing people together so enjoy getting loved ones involved but be careful not to go overboard, causing yourself added stress. Remember – too many cooks!

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Have you had issues with pushy parents during wedding planning?  Leave a comment and let us know how you dealt with the situation?

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Introducing Our New Guest Blogger (& Tips For Choosing Your Bridesmaids)!

October 5th, 2012 | Julia Braime

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Rachel Parry Mosaic Brides.

I’m excited to announce to new addition of a regular guest blogger here at Brides Up North – and this isn’t just any other random guest blogger – this girl comes with some pretty brilliant Northern bridal industry credentials.

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A huge and hearty welcome to Rachel Parry, the newest member of our growing team (ahem), here at Brides Up North HQ, and none other than editor of Mosaic Brides Magazine, an influential industry publication in Yorkshire. 

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In her first post for her favourite wedding blog (*blush*) she tackles a tricky topic for any leading lady – choosing your supporting cast – your bridesmaids.  Over to you, Rachel. 

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With black & white images by Katy Melling Photography

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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Rachel says: So the ring is firmly on the finger and you can’t wait to tell your friends and family.

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After cooing over the ring female attention soon turns towards questions about bridesmaids.  So who’s it going to be? Mums and aunties may well have already formed an opinion on this years ago, but ultimately the decision is down to the bride and it’s not one that should be rushed.

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It’s important to bear in mind from the offset that bridesmaids are there to make the planning process and the big day itself less stressful and more enjoyable – they should lessen the tension, not add to it.

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Winning attributes include those who are supportive of you and your relationship as well as being honest, trustworthy, responsible, organised and loving.

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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How Many?

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Where to draw the line? According to tradition the amount of bridesmaids should be proportionate to the size of the guest list in order to help things run smoothly on the day.

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While it’s important to remember that bridesmaids can be a great help in the run up to and during the wedding, there’s no point recruiting excessive numbers.  In many ways having too many bridesmaids can heighten stress levels rather than reduce them. For example more bridesmaids mean more cost on things like presents, dresses and accessories. It also means more people to organise and please when it comes to picking the bridesmaid dresses and arranging the fittings.

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Really what it should come down to is who you want closet to you on the journey towards and during your wedding day – whether that be just one person or a great big group.

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography    Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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Who?

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Probably the hardest part. Opinions are often divided at this point as whether to pick friends, family or a mixture of the two.  Some would undoubtedly argue that blood is thicker than water and therefore it should be family before friends but not all families are close and it could make both the bride and family bridesmaid feel uncomfortable.

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On the flip side friends can come and go, so as difficult as it is hold back from impromptu proposals and wait until closer the time when you can pick those nearest and dearest.

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When making your decision take time to think about who would suit the role, who knows you best, who has time to fulfil the role and would feel honoured to do so.  You shouldn’t have to explain your choices to anyone but by considering the above it shows you have thought hard about your decision rather than just picking those who will look good in a pretty dress.

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And remember, being a bridesmaid is an honour, not a right, so don’t feel pressured to ‘repay the compliment’ by purely asking someone to be your bridesmaid because you did it for them.

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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What?

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In order to avoid a competitive scene from the film Bridesmaids it’s important to make your maids feel equally important and involved.

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The usual bridesmaid duties might include:

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Helping to pick/organise things for the day

Advising on the wedding dress/bridesmaid dresses and attending fittings

Helping to make things for the wedding

Organising the hen do

Helping you get ready on the day

Doing a reading/making a speech

Working with the ushers/best man to organise guests and photos

Making sure you have everything you need throughout the day and ensuring things go smoothly.

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Remember though, these are friends – not slaves (and you want them to still be your friends at the end of the process!). 

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Bridesmaids by Katy Melling Photography

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The maid of honour/chief bridesmaid is generally a position allocated to the person who knows you inside out and will therefore take on board your feelings and wishes.  This person should also relieve some of the stress resting on your shoulders by overseeing the other bridesmaids, making organisational skills a bonus.   Above all the maid of honour should know how to keep you calm and make you smile.

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Much love, Rachel x

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To see all the beautiful images from Mr and Mrs Luke’s Real Wedding click here. 

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  – Images © 2012 Katy Melling Photography 

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Wedding Inspiration Wednesday: Secret Garden

September 12th, 2012 | Julia Braime

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The official plan was to share this beautiful wedding inspiration mood board next week in it’s usual fortnightly spot, but staring forlornly out of Brides Up North HQ’s windows at the lashing rain I needed one last hurrah with summer styling before I declare the season officially over.

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Step forward our guest blogger Katy of What Katy Did Next with her gorgeous Secret Garden mood board prepared especially for Brides Up North reader Tara following a request via Facebook.

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The perfect adieu to Summer 2012 (a bit of a washout yeah, but totally redeemed by all the Olympic and Jubilee excitement). 

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Wedding Inspiration Secret Garden 

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1. Wild Bouquet 2. ‘Violet’ Vintage Style Gown 3. Vintage Key Place Names 4. Lulu Townsend Heels 5. Champagne Bridesmaids 6. Glass Terrarium 7. Floral Carved Diamond Ring 8. Floral Crown & Veil Image 9. Vicky Trainor Linear Collection 10. Hydrangea Cake

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Katy says:  Bride-to-be Tara gave me ‘Secret Garden’ for this week’s wedding inspiration mood board. With free reign on style and colours, I stepped outside my comfort zone with the palette for this board which features a beautiful mix of champagne, dove grey and pistachio with a flash of iris blue. The Secret Garden novel is set in the early 1900’s so i used modern influences of Victorian and Edwardian style, which isn’t to everyone’s taste but is gorgeously effective in vintage style weddings.

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The fabulously individual Sally Lacock dress is decorated with delicately embroidered florals, beautiful draping and a lightly gathered skirt – perfect for an outdoor or barn wedding! The dress needs little or no accessories but would look fabulous with a natural flower crown and light veil. If this era of vintage isn’t your thing, keep the soft floaty fabrics but go for a more modern silhouette such as an A line gown with a sweetheart neckline. The beautiful almost ‘tea stain’ shade of the bridesmaids dresses gives the bridal party an antiqued look that compliments the very English country garden style bouquet (top left).

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For ‘Secret Garden’ decor you can’t go wrong with plenty of florals and foliage. Even slightly decaying leaves or dried flowers would look fabulous with this theme. If you are following the book theme you could mix bare branches with fresh vibrant florals to represent the changes the garden goes through. If you do want to use props, how about tiny lanterns, wrought iron candelabras, stone plant pots or bird baths full of tea lights – everyday garden items that can be used to decorate a venue? A beautiful idea for a table plan is to use vintage or rusty keys with tags as place cards for your guests. You could hang them on a Secret Garden style wooden door and let the guests choose their own seats. I love the terrarium jar idea for centrepieces. They could even double up as favours for your guests – giving them their own little Secret Garden!

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Remember: the plan is to share a new inspiration board in this time slot every other week, either compiled by myself, regular guest blogger Katy or YOU: get in touch with your own ideas and inspiration boards! We’ll be discussing our inspirations behind the images too so it’s simply going to be a whole load of lovely.

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If you are a little less arty but in need of inspiration and still want to play along, we will also be taking requests for colour schemes and themes and making bespoke boards for my readers. Please contact me to suggest a theme or colour scheme.

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Click here to see previous Wednesday Wedding Inspiration Mood Boards

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