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be our guest. who’s made it onto your list?

July 9th, 2015 | Julia Braime

Via Bridal Musings

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While weddings come in all shapes and sizes, the guests who attend them have a certain familiarity no matter where or how expensive the occasion.

Brides Up North Sponsor LateRooms.com has recently launched Weddingguestrooms.com – a new wedding hotel service that promises to take the pain out of booking rooms for Wedding Day guests.  The site creates a bespoke page of nearby wedding day accommodation options for would-be bride and grooms who can then share it with their guests.

Whilst creating their new site, the online service – who help more than 100,000 wedding guests in the UK find their post party hotels each year – has pinpointed some serial wedding invitees and their typical characteristics with help from 100 wedding planners from their hotels.

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We love their take on the guest list, so let us introduce you to the Weddingguestrooms.com line up… recognise any of this motley crew?

the awkward teenage cousin

There he is, hiding in a corner in a borrowed, ill-fitting 1995-era suit he’s been forced to wear in lieu of his usual skinny jeans, Ramones t-shirt and scuffed Converse All-Stars. He’s not happy, at least until the bridesmaids show themselves, and they remind him that the occasion is perhaps not as bleak as it at first seemed. If only he could muster enough courage to speak to a real girl…

Most Likely: To spend the whole day wishing he had a tattoo and dodging the drunken auntie.

the single older sister

Everyone, including her, thought she’d be first. And yet, for the first time in their lives, her sibling has beaten her to something. She feels the tick-tock of time as her younger sister proves finding ‘Mister Right’ isn’t about how far up the career-ladder you’ve clambered. She’s genuinely delighted for her sister but, right now, would swap any of her qualifications to be the one standing at the altar not standing in the pews, pipped at the post.

Most Likely: To win at all costs in anything competitive, even a family Monopoly game.

Via Rock N Roll Bride

image by Rensche Marie via Rock N Roll Bride

the cheapskate

This wedding guest firmly believes they’re outsmarting wedding etiquette but, in reality, sticks out like a sore, and rather selfish, sore thumb. They’re always rushing to get their rounds in while the free bar’s still in full swing and almost certain to keep a bottle of gin in their hotel room to sneak a crafty top up when the bar till is operational. Will be the one waving their glass vigorously at waiters in the hope of two or three refills during the wedding toasts.

Most Likely: To suggest after hours drinking – from your hotel room mini-bar.

the party animal

They’re always the last on the dance floor and can usually be found at the end of the night, on their knees, begging the DJ not to stop the Party Anthems CD from looping one more time. Once the pumping party tunes are over they will undoubtedly invite everyone back to their hotel room to continue the celebrations, regardless of what ungodly hour they have to be up in the morning.

Most Likely: To be taken of advantage of by The Cheapskate.

the lothario groomsman

Almost certainly the groom’s best-mate, the bad-boy who’s considered by everyone who knows him to be too unreliable to be best-man. He’s never had a relationship last longer than three weeks but is never short of female attention. He’s brought some random girl as his wedding guest but barely says two words to her throughout the day – possibly because he’s too busy chasing the attention of every other female in the venue.

Most Likely: To set his sights on the chief bridesmaid but wake up the morning after alone with a red hand-mark on his cheek.

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image via Ruffled

the drunken auntie

Often called ‘Nora’ or ‘Agnes’, our drunken auntie sees every wedding as her chance to make family headlines. She’ll wear an unwieldy oversized dress that demolishes entire tables of expensive wine as she whisks past, desperately trying to start a conga. She’ll be the first to leave, though not of her own accord – carried out by two groomsmen as she wheels between conscious and passed-out but insists she’s good for at least one more large glass of red.

Most Likely: To appear on a ‘You’ve Been Framed’ Wedding Fails Compilation.

the ‘down with the kids’ uncle

Uncle Bob knows his Straight Outta Compton from his Physical Graffiti. He loves classic 70s rock but pretends he totally understands the intricacies of Dubstep and Grime. He even has a Chase & Status t-shirt ironed for the morning after breakfast. He’ll happily regale you with tales of how he was the first teenager in the village to own a pair of authentic Adidas Sambas back in the day. He’s still got them, and wears them every Friday night when he hosts the Rappers Delight Beer Club at the community centre.

Most Likely: To insist that the DJ plugs his iPod into the PA system so that he can educate him on why the East Anglian Hip Hop scene is a thing.

the globetrotting relative

Why do people always travel from Australia for every British wedding? Just when you thought you were making a massive concession driving all the way from Essex to your cousin’s big day in Newcastle, this outbacker steals your ‘furthest travelled, biggest effort’ trophy seconds from you claiming all the wedding glory. Bride & groom have never met the globetrotting relative – they’re a distant cousin of the mother-in-law. And no-one ever sees them or hears from them again.

Most Likely: To be wearing a perma-smug smile and asking for extra helpings of wedding cake.

Via Modern Wedding

image via Modern Wedding

the man in a kilt

Why? You’ve never even been to Scotland, never mind have relatives there. Why does someone always turn up in a kilt? It’s almost like the Scots have a permanent wedding party radar and dispatch a citizen to each and every occasion to keep an eye on the celebrations. The kilt-wearing wedding guest can always be found next to a line of animated bridesmaids… you know… just in the event they ask THAT question.

Most Likely: To be asked “Is it true what they say…?”

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Eeny Meeny Miny Moe… Dealing With Guest List Stress

November 21st, 2012 | Julia Braime

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If you’re any way into your wedding planning and you’ve escaped an argument over the guest list, you’re doing damn well.

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For those of us who haven’t escaped the stress of the plus-one pleas, read on, our regular guest blogger Rachel of Mosaic Brides is back with some more of her words of wisdom. 

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Keep Calm Its Just A Guest List

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Rachel says:  For many wedding couples putting together the guest list is the most stressful part of the planning process.  The task goes far beyond simply drawing up a list of the friends and relatives you want present to share your special day as issues such as plus ones, inviting children and the parents’ guest lists come into play.

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In the early stages it’s important to look carefully at your venue(s) and budget; how many guests does the venue allow and how far will your budget stretch when everything including food, drink and favours are taken into account?

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Couples should also think about the type of ceremony they want; while some will prefer to keep things simple with a small and intimate affair, others will want to make the most of their moment in the limelight by filling the church to the rafters.

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Once these initial discussions have taken place it’s a good idea to draw up a rough guest list to give you an idea of numbers – but be warned, along the way you are likely to face the following dilemmas:

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Pushy Parents

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A topic I have discussed in a previous blog post and an area that should be handled with care.

This is probably where most disagreements over the guest list will occur as parents can have their own ideas on who should be invited to the wedding and it might not correlate with your own.

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While parents can be helpful in drawing up the guest list they can also get carried away, keen to invite as many people as possible to witness the momentous occasion. This can often lead to parents insisting distant relatives and friends of theirs make the list – people who neither you nor your fiancé may have ever met.

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Reining them in can be difficult especially if they’re footing some, or all, of the bill. Some parents have even been known to say they will pay for the additional guests they want to invite making it twice as hard to say no.

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Make exceptions where possible to avoid family fall-outs ahead of the wedding but also don’t be afraid to put your foot down if their plans start to impact on your own. For example, if the numbers would tip you over your venue’s capacity, if you would have to leave out your close friends to make way for their guests and if the numbers would disrupt the desired atmosphere for the day.

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At this point you may have to sit parents down and explain that such large numbers would take away the intimacy of the day and that you and your fiancé would feel awkward having to spend your special day making pleasantries with people who you don’t know.

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Friends vs Family

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Another tricky area when it comes to deciding on numbers.

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For some, weddings are all about the joining of two families and therefore relatives should make up the majority of the guest list. Meanwhile for others a wedding is one big party making lots of friends an essential ingredient.

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To help decide on the family/friend ratio look at where you can draw a line in the family tree to allow space for mates. In other words, after immediate family how far do you go – aunts and uncles? Cousins? Great aunts and uncle? Second cousins?

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This is the best way to cut off invites without causing offence or family rifts as you can provide a logical explanation for your actions.

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Lets Give Up & Go Down The Pub

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Children

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Another sensitive area I have visited on the blog before.

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In short, child invites can cause the guest list to rocket so again consider your venue capacity, budget and the type of ceremony you will be having before deciding on whether to invite children or not, and if so, who?

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Plus Ones

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Weddings are expensive and every extra body can add more than £100 to the bill, so choose who you allow plus ones to with care.  While couples are under no obligation to grant guests plus ones there are certain situations where many choose to do so.

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For example invitations are often extended to partners of the bridesmaids and groomsmen, especially for the evening reception, as a thank you for all their hard work in the run up to and during the big day.

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Most couples also choose to invite a guest’s long term partner especially those who are engaged/married or living together. Alternatively some couples may prefer to save their plus one places for guests’ partners who they have actually met. In either of these cases the invite would normally have both guests’ name on it.

Meanwhile for those generous enough to allow their single friends to bring a date the invite would state the friend’s name ‘and guest’.

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Good luck!

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How have you dealt with guest list issues?  Any tips for the rest of us?

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