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It’s true, us brides love wedding planning and we’ll more often than not take the lead in all the big decisions for our special day. After all, we’ve been secretly planning our dream wedding since we first stumbled across Disney’s happily ever afters and waltzing down the aisle in the prettiest of white ball gowns. But don’t forget the groom!
You and your partner will no doubt make some key decisions together, such as the choice of wedding venue, the date you actually tie the knot and setting the budget, but chances are, you’ll be the one curating all the Pinterest boards, flicking through glossy bridal magazines, sipping fizz at the bustling wedding fairs (of which Brides Up North are hosting two this weekend) and poring over wedding blogs for inspiration (waves!).
The reality is, your partner is probably not going to share your excitement for floral bouquets and lanterns. So, the trick is to get him involved in the bits that do interest him and which you’re happy to take a step back from, and then let him take charge.
And, for everything else, try to make the planning process as stress-free and fun as possible – and make it a journey you take together. To get you started, we’ve pulled together a few ideas to get your beau all fired up for your special day and help you tick off that ever-expanding to-do list… enjoy!
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It goes without saying that you should view potential wedding venues together, but why not make a real occasion out of it, and pique your beau’s interest and enthusiasm for wedding planning from the outset? If the venue boasts an in-house restaurant – treat yourselves to a spot of lunch or even dinner. If the venue is located within a lavish country estate – explore the grounds together with a romantic walk or outdoor picnic. And if there’s on-site accommodation – enjoy a luxurious overnight stay one weekend, all in the name of ‘research’, of course!
live it up
Battle of the bands events are commonplace these days, giving couples like you the chance to experience a variety of live acts first-hand as you whittle down your favourite genres and performances in the lead up to your big day. You may even have your eyes on a specific singer or band who have a regular stint at a local bar or venue, so why not get yourselves along to see and hear them in action? Even if your beau is a bit reluctant to get his dancing shoes on, we think it’s unlikely he’ll turn down the opportunity for a cheeky pint and some quality live music.
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sweets for your sweet
Chances are, you’ll have already decided on your dream cake – the number of tiers, whether it’s fully iced or naked, the dainty decorations, even the cute cake toppers. But if you’d like your partner to get just as enthused as you about all things sugary and sweet – why not get him involved in decisions around the flavours? Once again, this might require some research – tasting a variety of combinations to see which is to your liking (a real nuisance, we know). Why not take a tier each and then both agree on a flavour for your third layer?
make a meal of it
Most venues will invite you in to sample the menu and choose which dishes you’d like to serve on your big day and it goes without saying that this is something you should most definitely do together. But if you’re more of a free-spirited type, opting for a DIY style wedding and sourcing your own catering, then this can be the perfect excuse for you to both get out and about, following around your favourite foodie pop-ups and vans to sample their creations first-hand.
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put a ring on it
When it comes to shopping for wedding bands – think about combining this with a city break as it’ll take the focus off the wedding ring search itself and offer up a much more enticing itinerary packed with sightseeing, culture, food and drink. What’s not to love? And even if you fail to locate your perfect pair of rings, or your hubby-to-be’s enthusiasm for your shopping trip begins to wane, you’ll still have lots of other activities to look forward to during your mini break!
Playing up to your partner’s passions is one of the best and easiest ways to get him involved in your wedding planning. Not only will it make sense in terms of easing your own to do list, it’ll also give him something to take real ownership of. If he loves his gin, ask him to make a batch to give out to your guests as favours. Food more his thing? Ask him to liaise with any external caterers or pop-up suppliers you’re looking to bring on-board. Maybe he’s a film buff, so get him to lead on booking the videographer and briefing them on what you’d like captured on the day. Whatever his vice – think about how it can be incorporated into your special day and let him run with it!
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the fun factor
While you’re focusing on prettifying the venue and adding all those smaller, refined details to the day – think about asking your partner to lead on key but less taxing elements such as the entertainment – whether it’s pulling together a playlist for your DJ, booking (or making) a photo-booth, or crafting some games for the guests to play. Let him plan out all of the day’s fun-filled activities and enlist a little help from his groomsmen to boot.
Allow your partner’s talents shine and ask him to get hands on in preparation for the wedding. With so many opportunities to get crafty – whether it’s designing your wedding invitations, building a box for your wedding cards, maybe even making your table seating plan or getting his toolkit out for your centrepiece creations – he can really put his skills into practice and do a little bit of showing off, too, but in an understated way (although we’re pretty certain he’ll still brag about it on the day itself!).
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If he suitably nailed the planning that led up to his big proposal, then we think he’ll be more than capable of leading on your honeymoon plans – and let’s face it, who doesn’t love to organise a holiday? Draw up a shortlist of destinations together, then get him to dig a little deeper and research a variety of locations, hotels, activities and things to do, as well as flights and such like. It’s a sizeable project that’ll keep him occupied while you focus all your attention on perfecting the big day itself. All you’ll need to worry about is that honeymoon new-clothes haul!
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